Questions and Concerns:
- The decision not to parent when accompanied by an adoption
plan is not abandonment.
- Adoption is a life transition that can
be difficult and emotional.
- The Children’s Home Society is here
to provide personal, professional, and sensative attention
to your needs. Counseling services are individualized and confedential.
are often concerned about their child’s legal rights
is permanent and grants a child full membership in the new
family as if he or she were born into it.
- Often unplanned
pregnancies appear to have no good solution however, good
solutions with positive outcomes occur when birth parents have
accurate information that allows them to make fully informed
Birth parents often deal with the misconception of “giving
their baby away” or “rejecting their baby”, when
in fact birth parents who choose to make an adoption plan are simply
choosing not to parent at this time. In making an adoption
plan the birth parents are keeping the best interest of their child
Birth parents are concerned about the unknown:
- Who will parent my child?
- Will the adoptive parents love my child?
- Will my child resent me for making an adoption plan?
- Will my child have access to their birth families medical history
should they need it in the future?
- Will my child be able to contact me someday?
These are some of the complex and valid concerns that birth parents
consider when thinking about the option of adoption. The
following are some areas to consider:
- The birth parents can be part of the selection process of the
new adoptive parents. Birth parents are given non-identifiable
profiles of families and can actually choose which family they
wish to have parent their child. Adoptive family profiles
provide information regarding a family, which includes educational
information, financial information, and medical information, their
ideas and opinions on parenting and disciplining techniques as
well as extended family information. Pictures and “Dear
Birth Parent” letters are also available.
- Studies show that adoptive families love and nurture children
while providing for their needs as well as establishing permanency
in their lives.
- Studies show that an adoptee expresses gratitude and
appreciation to their birth parents for loving them enough to
put their interest before their own.
- Extensive birth information as well as non-identifying medical
information regarding the birth parents and their extended
family is provided to the adoptive parents at the time of placement. It
is possible for the birth parents to update their medical information
by contacting and providing the information to the adoption
agency or liaison that assisted in the adoption and that information
will then be shared with the adoptive parents.
- Birth parents have the option of leaving their contact information
about themselves should the child request this information
when they become adults. It is important to note that depending
upon the type of adoption such as open adoption the child may
have access to certain information earlier.